Adult friender

Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
News: Adult friender - Today hot theme: re answer me please, home alone wishing for some fun t, dating advice online Las Vegas Nevada, Whitehall West Virginia
 
   Adult friender   Help Login Register  
Pages: Feeling like a traitor [1]
Author Topic: Feeling like a traitor
tinkle

Full Member
Posts: 12

View Profile 
2011-08-15 14-24-03

Feeling like a traitor I am currently in a committed relationship with a wonderful woman and we're talking about spending the rest of our lives together. However, I am extremely worried about our sex life. I am very much sexually attracted to her and enjoy making love with her, but I feel as if I'm having focusing issues. I have no idea why, but when we're together I keep having this recurring fantasy that I'm with a man. I like to think he's in a position of power and that I am not/helpless. Normally, this type of fantasy would disgust me, but in the bedroom that's all I can think about. Afterwards, I feel incredibly dirty and ashamed. What in the world is possessing me to feel this way? Is it normal for people to fantasize about the sex that they are normally not attracted to? Either way I feel like a traitor and a cheat. Why can't I just enjoy the time that we are together instead of having some perverse fantasy? I am contemplating going back into counseling when I get health insurance again to work through these issues. In the meantime though...ideas, thoughts? Feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
european in town intended for work., fuck interested women

Find Hot Sexy Girls in

puglia

Sexy
Posts: 28

View Profile 
2011-10-02 8-28-17-

i personally think it's normal. the most interesting sexing partners i've had or (would've liked to have) had fantasies that they liked to either think about or role-play. i suppose the only way your fantasizing can be a real issue is if your gf would be totally offended or disappointed if you told her about it. i don't think this is something you need to -or can- "work through" in therapy. you're prolly just imaginative and curious about sex. but if validation is all you need, then maybe this forum can give you that. good luck
lonely here, good looking midgets Herndon West Virginia, Oak Grove KY -
Sex old women, hot married women looking for men, xxx date PLan De La Mesa.
gocke

Full Member
Posts: 26

View Profile 
2011-11-27 5-11-48-

Just wanted to say.. I think that's really good advice. I'm glad you wrote that post:)
S LOOKING TO GET BBW, grany dating Washington Georgia, Forest Louisiana, Malta IL, Siverek -
  • African american women in Castle Shannon Pennsylvania
  • heidecker

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 12

    View Profile 
    2012-01-17 11-19-21

    thanks That makes me feel better that I'm not totally alone on this. I was kinda starting to feel like a has-bian! Hehe
    Sexy loverboy aiming to satisfy the best woman, lack of money women Coalwood West Virginia -
  • mature looking for sex
  • Members in looking for a horny date

    cimorelli

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 24

    View Profile 
    2012-03-09 22-43-24

    mind if i ask you some questions? i'm just curious, and a little freaked out by how quiet & deserted this forum is today: - how old are you? - how long have you been together? - have you talked to your gf about this? - are you ashamed/worried that your fantasy involves domination or that it involves a man?
    adorable asian female accepting applications, xxx osh Swiss West Virginia, Strandburg South Dakota - Jordan Montana, Northvale NJ, Elk Mound, Westwood KS
    louisa

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 20

    View Profile 
    2012-05-26 8-33-00-

    answers x. I'm x x. Almost x year x. No, I think it would freak her out. x. Both.
    Looking Port Angeles Divas, find a date Lihue Hawaii - Gruver TX, Victor Montana
  • Looking for free dating site Branson Colorado
  • gartner

    Newbie
    Posts: 21

    View Profile 
    2012-08-23 7-30-25-

    keep in mind that in the realm of fantasies, gobs of people have rape fantasies and yet none (or at most a tiny fraction) of them actually want to be raped. I'm not saying fucking a man is the same as rape, I'm saying fantasies and what you want to happen are x very different things. Anecdotally, most of the dykes I've met who have fantasies about fucking men turn out to be women who a) aren't getting enough sex b) aren't getting enough penetration c) aren't getting enough sex
    cocksucker wished am, mainz sex asia Maple Lake MN - Bluff City, Cowiche Washington
  • quebec mature woman
  • hollmann

    Hero Member
    Posts: 14

    View Profile 
    2012-10-22 9-18-01-

    that's interesting. although i think my first instinct is to disagree. but it's an interesting thought. you mean these dykes admitted that they're not getting enough sex and/or penetration? what about people who aren't into penetration? or dykes who fantasize about being a man fucking other men?
    Natashas Tuesday Night, sex ok xxx East Machias, Edwards - Libby Montana, Post Oregon, Newkirk, Riverside Alabama
  • Free dating uk Springview NE
  • voght

    Member
    Posts: 39

    View Profile 
    2012-11-12 7-55-13-

    it was anecdotally and there are few dyke friends of mine who don't like penetration. But I could speculate the man-fantasizers are also folks who aren't getting enough role play or SM, folks who are tired of "equality" in their sex life. "Men" represent sexual freedom, so whatever they're not getting because of whatever hangup might be what the fantasy represents.
    any females need to help with this morning wood, sex with locals free Superior AZ, Henning - Sandown New Hampshire, Burlington KY
    berarducci

    Sexy
    Posts: 24

    View Profile 
    2012-11-18 12-37-33

    How do men represent sexual freedom?
    Harry Bond Mystery & Intrigue, trans escort North Chevy Chase Maryland, Central City Pennsylvania - Miston Tennessee
    lesesne

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 40

    View Profile 
    2013-01-22 9-50-30-

    watch any movie. Listen to any song. I don't at all think men are actually sexually "free," they are simply accepted as such culturally. They are expected to fuck and are never ed "whores" or "cheap" for doing so. Case in point: and and in the most on the money (s)example:
    enjoyment artsy intelligent regarding dating ltr, dating internet site Biddle, Carrsville - Lumber City Georgia
    Lonely hot seeking top online dating websites, Hot chicks Leyden Massachusetts.
    fairbank

    Full Member
    Posts: 17

    View Profile 
    2013-01-31 8-41-27-

    I see what you mean
    spouse needing fucked, swinger wife - Bailey North Carolina, Duncan, Bay Pines, Logan Ohio
  • whats on your mind
  • truslow

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 44

    View Profile 
    2013-02-27 8-29-12-

    Oh, i disagree. Are you suggesting that domination fantasies are symptom of "hangups" in a person's sex life? I think they're the first natural step to trying new things and becoming more in tune with what you like or don't like. Nobody loses their virginity in a dungeon while being peed on by a choking bear on a leash or whatever. I think people think about shit first and sometimes it represents exactly what it is and and it materializes, and sometimes it means something completely different and nothing comes of it. I can see your point, that someone who wants a more aggressive, stronger partner, and hasn't had that experience with women, might imagine that a man can offer that. But I don't think that can be generalized. Some dykes are totally aggressive, uninhibited, perverted motherfuckers and they still fantasize about bio-cock sex.
    HUMAN OUTDOORS SATURDAYSUNDAY, devils swingers Boger NC, Thurston Nebraska - Eleva Wisconsin, Jolly
  • How about some naked Twister?!
  • jefferys

    Member
    Posts: 29

    View Profile 
    2013-03-31 15-16-26

    stop flirting with me
    make us feel beautiful, woman gives head Lake Lorraine FL, Linden Alabama - Chickasaw, Harris MN, Chesterfield Court House VA, Fulton IN

    wieberg

    Full Member
    Posts: 13

    View Profile 
    2013-06-01 16-21-43

    bio cock!
    charming 24 twelve months old is still buying playful night flatiron, lady chat Martell Nebraska - Pinesdale, Greenport West, Butler Oklahoma, Beals
    Erotic women ready looking for fun, Hot horny ladies want switzerland online dating.
    jiseong

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 57

    View Profile 
    2013-09-16 12-56-06

    she should've never divorced me.
    What does a guy are related, woman and bull sex Rutland, Fort Sumner NM -
  • Casual encounter sites Poultny Vermont
  • trude

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 23

    View Profile 
    2013-10-19 15-11-17

    MAKE UP SEX
    swm seeks voluptuous ebony bbw, women pussy online - Thorhild Alberta, Cleveland OK
  • Black online dating Bremen
  • canaan

    Hero Member
    Posts: 14

    View Profile 
    2013-11-18 10-36-05

    But at least you got custody of Gertie & Fancy.
    I blast big loads Ive been recently saving, fuck date online Thatcher, Durham, Battle Ground Washington, Blountville TN -
    Find sex partner in Simi Valley, Woman want sex in Pooler.
    villalba

    User
    Posts: 13

    View Profile 
    2013-11-29 10-04-04

    yes she did yes. she. did.
    Do you will have a bathtub, sex chat women Wuyishan, Lukeville, Gaylordsville, Galesburg North Dakota -
  • Sex webcam Island Park Idaho
  • daoud

    Hero Member
    Posts: 43

    View Profile 
    2013-12-13 22-25-09

    *sob* I told you about the bear in confidence!
    Let us Melt your Complications Away, women looking for man tonight -
  • Tamar Valley sex date local Tamar Valley woman
  • winecoff

    Newbie
    Posts: 57

    View Profile 
    2013-12-28 13-39-04

    There, there. I destroyed the negatives. She can't prove a thing!
    anyone got your sex machine and i'm sure real, dating fling Primghar, Kwigillingok AK -
    heathcock

    Member
    Posts: 61

    View Profile 
    2014-01-04 15-39-27

    you can clearly see the leash marks on her neck!
    Cute nerdy guy for Associate with Benifits, bad girl Cranston Rhode Island, Dannemora - Hewitt WI, Bridgeport, Easley South Carolina, Irasburg
  • Midget dating sight Lilburn
  • lebovitz

    User
    Posts: 56

    View Profile 
    2014-01-05 1-47-31-

    And who are you ing a Bear?? Way to out me, L_L!!
    Do you'll need a handyman around your place, selena gomez horny San Manuel, Cologne MN, Broadview-Pompano Park, Shimla -
  • lonely mature women seeking women seeking men sex
  • Members in looking for a horny date

    Cathleen

    Member
    Posts: 21

    View Profile 
    2014-01-07 11-44-34

    that's so freaky....
    Time killer needed, elissa escort Jasper Missouri, River Forest IL - Port Royal PA
    Sex married seeking couples seeking men, Sexy mature wanting french dating.
    lawrence

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 67

    View Profile 
    2014-01-14 22-40-34

    Bumbles bounce!
    Looking to get Mature Real Lover, mature women sexy Bulgaria, Noank Connecticut - Speculator NY
    Meet girls Darnestown Maryland, Fuck girl in New Milford.
    austin

    Member
    Posts: 26

    View Profile 
    2014-01-21 5-48-12-

    we don't disagree. I see the fantasy as something that needs to come out and is trying to get out as well. However, I see so many people who interpret those fantasies as wanting to fuck men. The lucky ones act on that and discover that wasn't it. The unlucky ones tie themselves into knots because they fear that fucking men is the answer and they can't go there out of fear of losing their "dyke street cred" or their identity or what have you. I was talking about my friends who have had similar experiences and freak-outs re: "fantasizing about fucking men" and the outcomes for them. Hence "anecdotally." However, I will make the generalization that fixating and worrying about the meaning of such fantasies does more harm than good.
    at the attic sale, woman fuck New Hope, Clay IN, Chickasaw Ohio, South Miami - Kalida OH
    Horny couple wanting looking for woman, Dominant women ready dating asia.
    nesmith

    Hero Member
    Posts: 12

    View Profile 
    2014-01-26 9-57-11-

    my only point is that i don't think man-fantasizers are necessarily lacking something in their sex life. some might be, sure, and some dykes probably fantasize about their partner having a penis rather than her being a man, but i think in general, fantasies are great and great for you. i personally wouldn't suggest to someone that they indicate a shortcoming in their sex life. on the contrary.
    pregnant woman desired for fun, extreme older women Chesterland Ohio, Beasley Texas - Butte Falls Oregon
  • Horny cocks Mowrystown
  • duve

    Member
    Posts: 74

    View Profile 
    2014-01-30 8-35-11-

    we agree fantasies are great. As long as they don't send you into the fetal position of fear as the OP seemed when she got here. From my experience most women have quite a lot "lacking" (i.e. unexplored) in their sex lives, whether they have fantasies about fucking men or not.
    Looking for woman not crazy or simply married, saskatoon sex local - Powers Lake WI, Bridgeton North Carolina
  • Anyone know where to find
  • bartram

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 24

    View Profile 
    2014-02-02 17-15-28

    makes total sense We've had sex once in the past month, not because we didn't want to, but she's in grad school, we've both been pretty sick, and we were apart for about a week. And in the last month is when the fantasizing got really bad. I don't think I'm in danger of cheating (I got cheated on really bad and swore I'd never do such a thing), but it just seems like I can't get it out of my head. Now I'm fantasizing even when we're not together.
    Horned for River North, women wife cock Vona CO - Short OK, Bedford KY
  • Couples sex Alvord
  • keitel

    Sr. Member
    Posts: 40

    View Profile 
    2015-06-21 1-30-16-

    Black male seeking attached women Blk looking for the purpose of attached wom black woman sex Frenchton West Virginia en b/c I'm attached to boot or u don't have to be. Email me if u wanna know more. Put attached as the subject. Pic tend to be welcome. I'm open to ALL women.
    Christmas Shopper Thursday, woman swingers Vernon - Grand Tower, Hartsville TN, Capshaw, Smithfield UT 24196
  • Swingers sex Arcadia Lakes
  • lotti

    User
    Posts: 45

    View Profile 
    2015-07-02 18-59-06

    Want some head in addition to pussy Title says it be between eighteen and x. free pussy Algodones New Mexico only
    i come to make sure you youyou host males seeking women, dating sites free Wyola MT - Lakeview MI, Fisher Illinois zip 59392 zip: 21934, 39080, 11150
    mahlman

    Full Member
    Posts: 54

    View Profile 
    2015-12-29 4-48-57-

    Hotty looking to be fucked tricky Hotty needs to be fucked hard at the moment. I"m kinky and love to lick a males balls and ass. If you currently ha dirty Wrenshall women for sex ve sweaty or musty golf balls, big plus for you. Bend me above and do people hard. It's WAS.
    bisexual bbw searching for a special friend with benefits, indian sex online webcam - Camano WA, Bennington Kansas, Fort Worth Texas, Hampden Maine 71270
  • Eating pussy in Windom TX

  • Related Posts

     

    Report Abuse

    Valid CSS! Powered by SMF 1.1.11 | SMF © 2006-2009, Simple Machines LLC Valid XHTML 1.0!